Let the men handle it!

While my dying inner feminist rages at the idea of what I'm about to describe, the theory really holds water. Last night, I went to a club and one of the guys asked me to dance. While we were dancing, one of my friends cut in. At first I was wondering what was going on, but later I figured it out. One of her friends liked him. Oops. I didn't know. But I did tell her that I didn't necessarily like him enough to know him, but if he wanted to pursue something I wouldn't be opposed to it. But I also have to think of my life on a grander scale. I don't want any drama or problems while I'm down here.

But after we got back, we talked for a little while, and he said something that got me to thinking. When my friend cut in, he said that she liked to lead; it isn't supposed to be that way. One attractive quality because I like conservative men. However, I got to thinking about the way a lot of women are (how I have been in the past) and how nature really is.

In nature, the female never pursues the male; the males always have to offer the female something in order to mate with them. In birds, some are vibrantly colored, and some build impressive bowers. In mammals, males always fight for the right to mate with a female. It is her choice to mate with him if she wants. But he has to earn it. One other thing that I found impressive was that in eagles, the female make a male fly around with her and then she drops a stick and if he can catch the stick and bring it back to her, he's got her.

So, while I'm not an advocate of domination of one extreme or the other in relationships, I do believe that in courtship, men are naturally supposed to pursue the female. And logically it makes sense. Women can realistically only produce so many children. Men on the other hand can produce multiple children. So, if a male wants to "get in" a female and produce one a few of her possible children, he needs to show that he has something to bring to the table. Its his responsibility to show her that he's worth his salt.

And maybe that's why so many men dislike women who sleep around, at least among conservatives. It throws off the natural balance of life. And maybe that's why I felt like shit for so long because I was giving up something to guys who hadn't proved anything. And, I needed more of a commitment than just one night.

I'm glad that I get to work and be a free woman. I'm also glad that I'm protected by law from abuse and rape, etc. But I think that some people take feminism too far.

So, anyway, I say let the men handle it! I like sitting back and relaxing; not having to worry about stuff and being able to just chill.